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The one question I’m asking people now

By November 30, 2022Articles

One of my friends has a formula for happiness: you need somebody to love, something to do and something to look forward to.

It’s the last bit I’m interested in today because I think it fuels so much of our optimism, joy and ability to cope with challenges. So what are you looking forward to?

A couple of years ago, my answer would have been, ‘a European holiday, maybe a new car, definitely a Sydney long weekend.’ Heading into 2023, the one thing on my wish list is much less aspirational and certainly not in my control.

Dear Wish Fairy, I’d love a more consistent, monotonous year.

That’s it. Thanks.

Not very exciting, is it? But to me, the idea of not having giant peaks and troughs, of seeing fewer hospital beds and doctors’ serious faces, seems like the most desirable thing I could ever look forward to.

Chuck in a sprinkle of being able to do more of what I love, like connect with friends and get out and about a bit more, feels so alluring.

I laughed telling a friend I can’t wait to see Phantom of the Opera in Melbourne. Once upon a time, it would have been just a diary date on the calendar. Now it feels exciting to be dressing up a bit, having a champagne in the foyer, seeing a full-blown production. My perspective has changed. It’s the little things that are making me happy. The things I once took for granted.

Tell me what you’re looking forward to … big goals or small pleasures?