Have you reached the point where you know you’ve had enough, but you have absolutely no idea what you want instead?

I seem to be having this conversation with women everywhere.

They’re less tolerant of things they once accepted, more protective of their time, more willing to speak up and less prepared to carry everybody else’s problems or keep doing things simply because they’ve always done them.

And underneath it all is a feeling: something needs to change.

In this episode of Leading You, I explore what happens when you begin to outgrow a life, identity, relationship or expectation that once suited you.

It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having a midlife crisis or need to dramatically reinvent your life. Sometimes, you’ve simply changed.

We explore:

• Why becoming less tolerant can actually be useful information
• How we outgrow identities, relationships and definitions of success
• Why something can have been right for one chapter and wrong for the next
• How our relationship with time changes the choices we make
• Why knowing what you’re sick of is only the beginning
• Why “I don’t know yet” can be an honest and useful answer
• The questions that can help you work out what you want next

Self-leadership eventually asks us to move beyond “What have I had enough of?” and towards a harder question:

“What am I ready to choose?”

Your next chapter doesn’t need to arrive as one enormous moment of clarity. Sometimes it begins with a boundary, a conversation, something you stop tolerating or one choice you start making differently.

Timestamps

00:00 Welcome to Leading You
00:31 Sick of the Bullshit
03:02 Outgrowing Your Old Life
06:37 Time Changes Everything
07:40 Small Shifts Not Blowups
08:41 Sponsor Clarity Compass
09:34 From Complaints to Choices
11:04 Space Before Clarity
12:37 Questions to Ask Yourself
14:11 Pay Attention to Your Voice
16:35 Closing and Reviews