A friend said something to me recently that stopped me. She told me it can be hard to support me sometimes.
She explained she’s never quite sure where I’m at with my cancer journey. Whether to bring it up, or leave it alone.
And she’s not the first to say it. My mentor asked me something similar a while back. Why don’t you share more?
I didn’t have a clear answer then. And if I’m honest, I’m not sure I fully do now.
I’ve never been someone who puts everything out there. I process internally. I keep moving. I get on with it.
But here’s what this season has taught me, more than anything else.
Time.
We treat it like it’s guaranteed. Like there will always be another window. Another year. Another right moment.
I’ll do it when the kids are older.
When work settles down.
When I have more money.
More clarity.
More certainty.
We tell ourselves we’re being responsible. But more often than not, we’re just waiting.
Here’s the truth. That moment may never come. Mine didn’t come with a warning.
Things can change in an instant.
One conversation.
One diagnosis.
One moment that splits your life into before and after.
And that does something to you. It sharpens your thinking. It forces a question most people spend their whole lives avoiding:
What is it costing you to wait?
Not financially. Personally.
What is it costing your health, your energy, your relationships, your happiness? What are you tolerating because it feels easier than making a change?
A role that drains you.
A business model you’ve outgrown.
Clients who don’t respect you.
Friendships that take more than they give.
For me, the answer was all of the above.
So I made changes. Not all guns blazing. Gradually, and kindly. I reshaped my business around work that actually mattered to me. I let go of clients who weren’t aligned. I stepped back from friendships that consistently left me depleted.
None of it was dramatic. But all of it was deliberate.
And the clarity on the other side? Worth every uncomfortable conversation it took to get there.
There’s a quote that stayed with me through all of this: “The trouble is, you think you have time.” — Jack Kornfield
Stop waiting for life to feel easier before you act. It probably won’t.