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The Freak Out That Got Me Thinking

By December 6, 2023Articles, Leadership

Now that the book is done, I’ve been spending some time reflecting.

When I first sent my manuscript off to my editor, I was freaking out, thinking they were going to come back to me with, ‘This is not good enough to be published’. I was really doubting myself. Wasn’t confident that I was a good writer or that what I’d written would resonate with an audience.

Then the editor came back and said the manuscript was informative and authoritative: “It’s in really good shape. It’s great how you use your story and relate it back to techniques and strategies people can implement. Well done.”

Ok…..Yes! I was so excited. Thought, maybe I am a writer! Then thought, why did I lack self confidence in that moment? As a leader, it’s not my usual MO. But when it comes to me putting myself out there, in a vulnerable way, self-doubt creeps in! So, I did some thinking about my best strategies to build confidence.

To start with, you have to know it’s a gradual process that involves self-awareness and self- compassion. Start by setting achievable short and long-term goals and always celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small.

Challenge negative self-talk by replacing it with positive affirmations. Surround yourself with supportive and uplifting people who believe in you.

Competence breeds confidence, so constantly expand your knowledge and skills through learning and self-improvement. Take care of your physical health through exercise, proper nutrition and adequate sleep because feeling as good as you can physically boosts self-esteem.

Embrace failures and setbacks as opportunities for growth rather than as reasons for self-doubt.We all make mistakes. You are not unique if you do. Not everything gets across the line either. That’s life.

Practice self-acceptance and recognise nobody is perfect. Imperfections make you unique and human! They actually make you interesting!